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When managing behavior change is like pushing water
I subscribe to the notion that if a change is so good, then why the hell haven’t I already embraced it? Commonly I just need to get out of my own way.
When I’m managing myself through a change — a new exercise regime, wearing a face mask, living in a new city — I look at all the obstacles in my way, and work out how to lower them or, if possible, eliminate them entirely.
“ Be water, my friend.” ~ Bruce Lee
When I suffer the energy shift of change (because that’s how it can feel sometimes) I imagine myself as water, churning, boiling even, resisting unwanted transportation.
We can’t push water (unless we’ve frozen the life out of it), so there are two options, carry it, or let the water do the work for you.
Carrying anything is exhausting, and a sloshing barrel of water is even more sapping, so how do we let the water do the work for us?
Going back to my first comment — if a change is so good why am I not already there — all I need to do is remove the obstacles. I carve a furrow in the earth down the slope to the better place, and then break the dam holding back the water, letting it run along the groove I’ve ploughed. I stopped trying to push the water and instead focused my efforts on creating the conditions to facilitate its…
